I was over at Necole Bitchie and seen that Erykah Badu wrote a post for the "haters" who had negative things to say about being pregnant. It still didn't change my opinion about it. I'll highlight a few of the things she said..
"i am an excellent mother and resent all of the negative comments and insults on my character.
I PUT MUCH TIME AND THOUGHT INTO HAVING AND RAISING MY CHILDREN.
IVE HAD THE HONORS OF HAVING 2 HOME BIRTHS AND 2 WONDERFUL PARTNERS BY MY SIDE.
every relationship i have been in was because i loved the person DEARLY and was dedicated to us “exclusively” FOR A NUMBER OF YEARS.
the fathers of my children are my brothers and friends . we have a great deal of respect for one another and always will. WE LOVE OUR CHILDREN TO NO END. we took our own “vows” and CONTINUE TO UPHOLD THEM. AND THAT IS WHAT THAT IS ...I LOVE CHILDREN AND I WILL HAVE AS MANY AS GOD WILL GIVE ME .
I AM VERY HEALTHY AND RESPONSIBLE AND SO ARE ALL OF MY PARTNERS
I CHOSE THEM WISELY AND SOBERLY .
ALL GOOD BROTHERS .
your opinions lack experience and are not only careless but also very uninformed and immature.
nothing is sacred here . and i see why.
if i loose you as a fan because i want to continue to have children then
F*CK OFF… WHO NEEDS YOU ….CERTAINLY NOT ME … KICK ROCKS … CALL TYRONE … PACK LIGHT …. BITE ME"
*Raises the church finger* That really bothers me. Folks are grown and can do whatever the hell they want to do, but who keeps "planning and choosing" to have kids with different men. Just because you're in a relationship with someone for "a number of years" doesn't mean you should have kids with this indivudual. Especially if, after the fact, you can look back and know you made the mistake of having one of your kids too soon. Come on y'all, this is a grown ass women talking, not a teenager. If we shake our heads at Antonitha up the street with 3 kids, 3 different daddies, what makes her so different? Because she's rich and a celebrity? Please, I call a spade a spade. And I don't appreciate her sending the message to the impressionable youth that its okay to have numerous kids with numerous daddies as long as you have a "deep bond for a number a years."
Heres a thought: why don't you wait until the relationship is secure and you're married to have kids. If the marriage fails, at least you tried. But don't try to act like most marriages are doomed, so it's no need to be married. I wouldn't be so hard on her if it was her first child, but this is third people. I'm tired of these celebrities getting on the airwaves with their gripes about marriage and they've never even experienced it. I am only 27-years-old and I know countless of HAPPILY married people. Both young and old, so I'm sick of people saying that shit.
I was reading through comments on the message board and it baffled me that people thought it was okay to do this because she has money. WTF? Money will not be a shield when her kids see different men coming and going who they once considered their father. What about her first child? Her son has seen 2 previous dads pass through his life...even if they stick around to take him to the store or play soccer, it's still a big difference. And what about her daughter? Don't you think she will question her moms decisions when she able to fully comprehend?
Erykah is a unique and eccentric women who chooses to do things outside of the box. I'm fine with that, but I'm not okay with her thinking that she's above being criticized when she does things that some people will consider morally wrong. If she don't like the negative attention oh freaking well. This is one of the drawbacks of being an artist; everything you do is in the spotlight. So...yeah...I guess I fall into the category of people who can "Kiss her placenta." *shrugs*
And on that note, I dedicate this old school joint to Erykah.
18 Responses to Sorry, but Erykah you're not exempt either...
Rant on A.Red. Rant on.
LOL...I don't sugarcoat nothing. Nobody will sugarcoat if it was me.
*sighs after reading Erykah's response*. Regardless of what she is saying, it is not a good look to have three baby daddies. Did this chick learn anything from the first two? Don't be having a man's child if he can't wife you. How do she think her kids are going to view this when they get older?
I mean I can feel her on getting mad cuz peeps is judging her but that's the way of the world. If your sh*t stank u betta believe you gon' get called out about...and even more when you're famous. Hopefully, the guy will marry her. 3 times a charm right.*crosses fingers*
Side Note: I kinda have my doubts that this is actually her responding because I think she is a somewhat logical person and that response is anything but logical.
what in the hell is that sitting on top of her head? I mean really...
I do think the some of the critics in the forums were a little nasty & many acted as if it was TABOO & unheard of...it's not unheard of in fact it's more common than uncommon.
BUT...does it make it right? HELL NO!!! After having 2 children out of wedlock by 2 different dudes & then you choose to continue the cycle that's just like saying you haven't learned from it & your actions are justified. It definitely doesn't set an example for her kids who already in this world.
So when little 'Puma' gets old enough she probably will follow in her mother's footsteps...
'Puma' is Erykah's daughter's name...No Lie...
@ lil' sis and Odara...
Finally some women with sense!It's sad to see the morality in our society going down and people thinking its not okay. People need to separate Erykah the artist, from Erykah the person.
And PUMA?! Da hell?! What's the 3rd kid going to be named...Creative Recreation?
Iono Red.. I have a different perspective on the whole thing ONLY because I'm the eldest child of three siblings and we all have different fathers (waaaay before this ish was popular.. mom's was a pioneer) But seriously - she married each one of them, but the effects we as children saw of the anger and hatred was too damn much.. I'm not mad at Erykah for having three different baby daddies.. it's how she raises those babies that will make the difference.. just my .002
First off, she probably got a better home, family and life then many other people have to offer their children.
Second, nobody ever thinks that their relationship will fall apart when they in love and all is going well, but sometimes it does. Who are you to judge? She got a career where she has to travel too, that brings a wholenother set of baggage to any relationship.
Third, why would it make any difference if she would be married or not? Marriage is a piece of paper, a ring and a promise. I don't take my man any less lighter, as if were not gonna be together till the end, because I dont have a ring. I made the same promises of faithfulness, love and care when we got together. Your thinking is irrational.
Lastly: how the hell is Erykah's relationships any of your beezwax? Get your own damn life, grannies with nothing else to do but gossip, you oughta be ashamed.
First and foremost when you are a CELEBRITY you are in the FOREFRONT of the public. If you don't want your business in the street be a regular joe and work a 9-5.
She can live in the White House for all I care, children without both parents, or around flip flopping spouses, parents who fight etc. will have problems. So as a parent you should do the best combat the things you can control. It's not wise of Erykah, Moet up the street, or Lil Skeet up the block to have babies all over the place.Once is a mistake, 3 is a habit.
And you're on this site gossiping right along side of me so get off your soapbox and sit in the audience like everyone else. So YOU should be ashamed. You're awfully concerned about this situation too. You commented right? Whether you're for her or against her you're sill in her business.
Thats ridiculous, 'be a regular joe', wtf? If she has musical and performing talents good enough to earn four grammy's and numerous other respected musical-awards, it would be better for her to just wait tables, huh? If YOU got no other choices but your nine to five and your six to ten, it ain't HER fault. Sounds like jealousy to me...
She's a singer, a performer. In the modern day exposure in the media is a necessity to make it in the music-business. In my opinion she has never flaunted her personal-life in the press but has been honest when asked about it.
She had her first child Seven, at the age of the 26 in 1997 which was roughly 11 years ago.
The second child Puma, was born in 2004, which was roughly 4 years ago when Erykah was 33. So thats about 7 years apart for having two kids.
Yeah, what a slut.
And don't even try to tell me that you're posting this shit because you're worried about the kids! You think the children will be thankful at you for speculating their parents relationships or calling them mistakes!? It wouldn't be a problem if you didn't make it one. The difference between me and you is that you just don't see her as a human but as your entertainment. I'm more concerned about your disrespectful behavior to anyone in the public eye then her honor or personal business,
what if it was you?
To Bambooklyn, what you work for Erykah street team or something? No one (male/female, famous/not famous) should keep having illegitimate kids. I mean come on...are you serious?
And jealous of her *chuckles* yeah we are all jealous cuz she has three kids by three different men and aint married not one of them...oooh, what a life!! Baby bye, you must be in the same predicament to think that shit is okay.
"Never argue with an idiot. They bring you down to their level, then beat you with experience."
Nothing in all the world is more dangerous than sincere ignorance and conscientious stupidity!
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You need to check what century we on right now! Nowadays women aren't just baby makers for men, we can choose to have (or not have) our babies when we want to, who we want to, why we want to and how many we want to. Your thinking is so out-dated and uneducated and you can't even backup any of your arguments.
A relationship isn't worth any less or more with or without an amen. Y'all think that love gives a phuck about a wedding ring? Y'all think a child will care about it? Nah!
And if all this hate, jealousy, discrimination, bad talking and attempts to humiliate her is because you on some (two-faced) christian bs then I'd like to remind you that 'Let He Who is Without Sin Cast the First Stone'
I get so damn angry when people are ignorant as phuck! Start thinking for yourself and forget about the centuries of brainwash about the woman's place and what is the so-called 'correct' behaviour for a woman. If she is happy and her children are happy, what is it that makes you wanna rain on their parade?
Look BAMBOOZLED, the prob is women like you thinkin its okay to be baby making machines for every tom, dick, and harry who becomes your boyfriend. You'll are the reason all these angry fatherless fuck ups roaming the earth because you were too concerned with busting a nut and having someone ''love'' you. Not everyone falls in this category, but most women with your logic do. Men love to run doormats like you. You getting so worked up more then likely means you're in the same position.
More importanly this story is old so I'm looking for more baby mama drama etc. to talk about. I can give two shits about Erykah right now, she's prob on her 100th boyfriend and 6th child, but I digress. Keep a close watch on my site, which you've obviously been doing. I appreciate the hits and love working people up. Woosah homey...I see you getting mad son! Lmao. My job is complete.
Good looking Is she for real. That last comment worked her the hell up. LMAO
Yeah you just totally proved my point. What a waste of space, you'll get yours when the time comes.
You never really had a point...especially since your head is so far up Erykah's ass I couldn't tell where she ended and you begin.
More importantly, worry about the bunk ass space you're occupying and not mine.
Damn, she still on this old shit. Bamboozled, this post was so like weeks ago, how bout you post yo fucked up ass views on a current post.
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